Telling the Story of Your Divorce with Steve Friedman by Divorce Dialogues published on 2019-06-11T18:56:10Z In the midst of difficult life transitions like divorce, it is human nature to reach extreme, self-defeating conclusions: I’m incapable of love! All men are sociopaths! The world is unspeakably cruel! How can we take a closer look at what happened in our relationship and expand the narrative to something a little more nuanced, a little more balanced, a little closer to the truth? One strategy that works is to tell the story of your divorce in writing. Steve Friedman is the award-winning author of seven books, and his essays on relationships have appeared in anthologies like Modern Love and The Bastard on the Couch. Steve’s work has appeared in a number of national publications, including Esquire, GQ and The Washington Post, and he was the writer of the first Modern Love column in The New York Times. Steve teaches the popular writing course Divorce, Breakups and New Beginnings: Telling Your Story through the organization UNtied. Today, Steve joins Katherine to discuss how writing helps people make difficult life transitions. He explains how the demands of storytelling impose order in a chaotic world and afford us a more nuanced perspective of divorce. Steve also shares the value of exploring separation in the context of a writing workshop and walks us through some of the exercises he uses to examine a story from different perspectives. Listen in for insight around what Steve has learned about love through teaching and writing about relationships and learn how telling the story of your divorce can help you move forward! Topics Covered How writing helps people make difficult life transitions Using storytelling to impose order in a chaotic situation Why women are more inclined to take writing classes The value of exploring divorce in a workshop setting The ground rules of Steve’s divorce writing workshop • No judgement • Accountable for telling truth Creating space to reach new conclusions with writing The cathartic nature of journaling through difficult times Exercises for seeing a narrative from different perspectives Steve’s surprise at the blame women take on in divorce The relief that comes from realizing you’re not alone Why instant chemistry doesn’t ensure a happy marriage Steve’s insight that no one is the ANSWER for anyone else Connect with Steve Friedman Steve’s Website: http://stevefriedman.net/ Books by Steve Friedman: https://www.amazon.com/Steve-Friedman/e/B000AR7YFC?ref=sr_ntt_srch_lnk_11&qid=1559662805&sr=1-11 Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1 The New Yorker’s Guide to Collaborative Divorce by Katherine Miller: https://www.amazon.com/New-Yorkers-Guide-Collaborative-Divorce/dp/0692496246 Email: katherine@westchesterfamilylaw.com Call (914) 738-7765 Resources The Bastard on the Couch: 27 Men Try Really Hard to Explain Their Feelings About Love, Loss, Fatherhood, and Freedom edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Bastard-Couch-Explain-Feelings-Fatherhood/dp/0060565357 Modern Love: True and Extraordinary Tales of Desire, Deceit, and Devotion edited by Daniel Jones: https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Love-Extraordinary-Desire-Devotion/dp/0307351041 Modern Love in The New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/column/modern-love UNtied: https://untied.net/ UNtied Events: https://untied.net/upcoming-events/ Elise Pettus on Divorce Dialogues EP030: https://divorcedialogues.com/a-community-of-women-navigating-divorce-with-elise-pettus/ Genre Podcast
