Here are the Top Ten Insights from the Heart of Listening:
Top 10 Insights from The Heart of Listening… so far!
1. Begin at the Beginning. Come into full presence in this moment by directing my attention to feeling my body, bringing relaxation to my belly and my breath, tending with my attention to my embodied energy.
2. The First Step of Connection. Listening deeply first to myself with self awareness and self connection. Ask, what am I feeling in this moment? What’s most alive? What matters?
3. Where Connecting to Others Begins: Inner Awareness for Innersight into Others. Appreciating the beauty of universal human needs or values as I find them right here, in my longing for ease or rest, for acceptance, contribution, health, connection, love… etc.
4. Loving What I Find or “Petting Our Monsters.” In listening to my own being, I welcome everything that arises, the fearful one, the guilty one, the special one, the comparing one, the lonely one. I embrace all the parts, all the aspects of me.
5. Connecting to Heart intelligence. By consciously bringing my attention and energy into the heart, I notice the greater quality of at-homeness. I can access my heart center by breathing from the heart. When heart and brain come into synchronous wave, we enjoy our natural state of calm, alert awareness.
6. Valuing Connection Over Outcome. Connected with my own heart, accepting of what I find in myself, and noticing that this inner sight exposes vulnerabilities that I share with others, now I am ready to look out of myself and toward another. With myself and with another I practice compassion, opening to what is arising, recognizing that love and connection begin with accepting myself, people and things as they are. Through acceptance, I am open to the living energy in the in between.
7. The Heart Readies to Listen. In my listening, I intend to leave behind conditioned patterns of fixing, advising, consoling, comparing. Giving my attention to what is most alive in the expression of the “other”. Instead of getting caught in the story my mind chatter or patterns of evaluating and judging myself or another, through my heart-centering, I am now tuning to the beauty of universal human needs.
8. The Power of the Echo in Listening. By simply and accurately echoing or re-sounding a single energy word, (a feeling or a need) I can offer the speaker an experience of being truly heard.
9. Keeping the Open Heart, Open Mind Connection. An attitude of open curiosity, an energy of “don’t know” allows me to see and hear the person speaking with fresh eyes and ears. “I am not a thing – a noun. I seem to be a verb, an evolutionary process – an integral function of the universe.” Buckminster Fuller
10. While Hurting Children Cry, Hurting Adults Criticize and Complain. I can remember and recognize that every action and expression is an attempt to meet a precious human need: to be seen, to be heard, to be understood. Sometimes actions or expressions are distressed or even tragic. By tuning to the underlying unmet need, we cultivate our own capacity for compassion.