Primal Happiness Interview Of Eliane on Benevolent Leadership by Parenting For Wholeness published on 2018-04-18T18:52:10Z For the original publication of this podcast by Primal Happiness, go to https://primalhappiness.co/podcast/episode178/. About this interview, the amazing Lian Brook-Tyler wrote: "... we spoke about one of the main reasons many parents who try gentle parenting struggle and why adding in the missing ingredient of leadership makes so much difference. It’s actually quite magical! What I especially love about Eliane is that she grounds everything she talks about in what’s natural for humans and also what’s she’s seen herself as a parent and as a parenting coach. She’s wonderful! I know you’re going to love her too! What you’ll learn from this episode: • Why is leadership in parenting so important? As Eliane says: imagine if you were moving somewhere with a completely different culture. Or even to a different planet. Picture yourself being there alone, not knowing the language and not knowing any of the local customs; not knowing what is considered rude or might upset people or possibly even make them want to harm you; not knowing how to operate any of their technology or how to operate in their society, organizations, businesses, etc. How would that feel? And now imagine that you have a local guide who is there to help you acclimate. Would you do whatever you want, or would you check with that trusted person to find out what’s appropriate? Would that person be controlling you or helping you adapt to the culture? As far as that guide goes, would you prefer someone who is afraid to give you information, who is apologetic and who avoids giving you directions as much as possible? Or would you want someone who knows you well, knows what you already know and what you haven’t encountered yet, and matter-of-factly presents you with the information you need when you need it. • Find your tribe: Surround yourself with parents who are parenting this way, this stuff is so much easier when we’re not doing it alone! And be very choosy about who you talk to parenting challenges with – Eliane’s suggestion of having a phrase to politely rebuff unwanted parenting advice is a great one! • Understand your non-negotiables, personal non-negotiables and preferences and give your children clear and benevolent leadership around them accordingly, I love Eliane’s example of crossing the road – almost all of us will know that feeling of guiding children to cross the road safely – it’s that same feeling that informs clear, benevolent leadership elsewhere." Resources and stuff that we spoke about: • Eliane’s book: Clean Parenting ~ The Peaceful Parent's Essential Handbook ► http://www.coachingforwholeness.com/ • What Clear Benevolent Leadership Looks Like – an Example from the Huxtable’s ► http://tinyurl.com/ow72chb • The Missing Piece In Many Peaceful Parenting Teachings ► http://tinyurl.com/ydewh2ej • A Simple Exercise With A Big Impact: Differentiating Between Non-Negotiables And Preferences ► http://tinyurl.com/glyxtcm • How To Raise a Healthy Child When You're All Fucked Up ► https://tinyurl.com/y9jyxc9l And if you love Lian as I do, check out her website: https://primalhappiness.co/.